Everyone has that one person they rely on for support, whether it be emotionally or mentally. My support system recently moved to a different state, and we’ve been giving the long distance friendship a go. Seeing as Valentine’s Day/Galentine’s Day is tomorrow, I thought I’d tell you about my lovely friend.
Jay and I met my second year of university at a club meeting and bonded at trip to Reno, the rest is history. So far, we’ve been doing a pretty good job of keeping in contact through texting and FaceTime. We’d catch up on each other’s lives and address any concerns we’d have throughout the day or week. Hopefully, we’ll have a chance to plan and meet up somewhere in the future for a trip. But, for now, here are some tips that have worked for us so far I’d like to share…
If your friend is moving to another state or country, you can’t expect them to be there to answer you 24/7. They could be busy settling down, getting used to their new life, or they’re in a different time zone. Nonetheless, you should be understanding of their new schedules and routines and come to a compromise on when to communicate with each other.
-Keep track of the time difference
If your friend isn’t in the same time zone, figure out how many hours apart you are in order to see when it’s an appropriate time to chat to them. What times are they usually free? Or just text them and wait for a reply, if you know they’re busy. They could reply to you when they have the chance to message back.
-Schedule video chat days
Jay and I schedule our video chats depending on which day of the week we’re both free. It doesn’t have to be a long chat if you both don’t have much time. But, just a few minutes of some face time and speaking to each other could be pretty satisfying. Since we’re both fairly busy in the mornings and afternoons, Jay and I would video chat usually before bed towards the end of the week.
-Write and send letters
Sometimes, your schedule just doesn’t match up, but that definitely doesn’t mean you should just give up on your friendship. It’s pretty old school, and not many people send letters anymore to communicate. But, I find something about letters to be endearing and more heartfelt. It’s like you actually took the time to personally write and mail something to someone you care about. Although, mailing does take a bit longer, it’s a lot better than no contact at all.
-Something to remember by
Before Jay left, we both gave each other something to remember the other by. I put together a box with a bunch of “Open when” letters, some face masks, and snacks for her. In return, she gave me a cookbook (because I eat the same thing everyday), and a small vase with white flowers. We also met up on her last day to take a bunch of polaroid pictures to remember each other by.
Enjoy the pics guys!